Loving Difficult To Love People

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"The most difficult people to

 love are those who need it."

 -Peaceful Warrior, movie

When you see that certain person, your heart beats faster, you breathe deeper and your face turns red. No, it's not your one true love but that person who just ticks you off in every single way. Each and one of us have encountered people who are really difficult to like, how much more to love.

Some of them may be our mortal enemies who have offended and hurt us in the past and who we find hard to forgive. Some are just people we don't like because of certain qualities such as how they look and act or even just people we find annoying. Whoever they may be, there were, are and will always be people in our lives who we find hard to love.

Sure, it's quite easy to love lovable people, easy to love people and people we have come to love. But to love an unloving person or, at least, a hard-to-love person takes conscious effort and decision to do so. The best person who demonstrated this love was Jesus Christ when he said,

" You have heard it said, you shall love your
neighbor and hate your enemy. But I say to you,
love your enemies
and pray for those who persecute you.
For if you love only those who love you, what reward is there in that? "

He didn't just talked the talk but he walked the talk by being crucified in the cross to show His great love to those who loves Him and, more importantly, to those who wish Him dead.

Each and one of us is called to love everyone. Even those people we find hard to love. Personally, I too have my own set of people who I can't help it but ticks me off in every single way and there are also those who have hurt me in the past who I find hard to forgive. But if you come to think about it, we can't really live life to its fullest if we let these things be unnecessary baggages in our journey.

And I'm not saying that we should love people we find hard to love by being touchy feely towards them or to love them expecting to be loved back. What I'm saying though is that we show these people the respect that these people deserve as a person should deserve (even if they don't deserve it!) and to accept them as they are. This is a thing not for the soft people but for the strong ones who are willing to make themselves vulnerable. And for those people who have offended and hurt us, we simply forgive them. Sure, these things are easier said than done. But doing these gives us a deep sense of liberation and provides us the way to live a fulfilling life.

We can't control what others think, say, feel and do to us but we can control our attitude, perception and response towards them. To love people who are difficult to love is nothing more than a choice. A choice to go beyond oneself. A choice to go against how society scripts us. A choice that affirms that we are human beings capable of making choices and not just reacting.


“Love is the only force capable of transforming
an enemy into a friend.”
-Martin Luther King, Jr.